Monday, September 30, 2013

Inspired by Love and Service

"The beauty and charm of selfless love and service should not die away from the face of the earth. The world should know that a life of dedication is possible, that a life inspired by love and service to humanity is possible." - Sri Amritanandamayi Devi
This love and service are perfectly expressed in nursing care, whether it is a family member caring for a child who is sick with a virus, or a professional nurse with advanced training, serving in an intensive care unit. One of the most tender aspects of this love and service to humanity is seen in hospice nurses. 

I am privileged to know a hospice nurse who was trained in the ICU, and moved outward from there to care for people with life-limiting illness - those who choose to forego extraordinary means of prolonging their lives, preferring to focus on quality of life over quantity.

When we were faced with Katie's diagnosis of relapsed adrenocortical carcinoma (and with it, "terminal" cancer), Seattle Children's Hospital offered to call hospice and request care for Katie in our home. We accepted, in shock and gratitude. Amy came over a few days later with the hospice social worker, Dee; they explained everything and answered our questions.
In many parts of the country, hospice is not available for children. One of the reasons for this is the fact that - even among hospice professionals, where death is viewed as a natural part of life - the death of a child is a very hard thing to witness and accept. Fortunately for us, Amy knew that "The LORD cares deeply when his loved ones die" (Psalm 116: 15), and she came alongside to teach and help us, providing skilled hands to deliver that sacred care.

Over the next weeks, Katie's condition grew more life-limiting as the disease advanced in its unique and terrible way. During that time, Amy was always just a phone call - and a few minutes' drive - from us, all day and night, every day. She consulted by telephone, made home visits, provided comfort care and listened, in the most compassionate, understanding and devoted way. Katie was not happy to be in hospice care, and adopted what we call a "spicy" attitude to Amy (calling her "the quack" when she was out of earshot), but Amy understood this and loved her. 
We will be forever grateful to Amy for her support in some of the most tender and sacred moments of our daughter's life and death.
Amy writes a beautiful blog, and has just published an article in the American Journal of Nursing which I highly recommend; it can be found HERE. For more insight on this subject, check out this article in The Week magazine (an excerpt from Knocking on Heaven's Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death by Katy Butler. ©2013 by Katherine Anne Butler).
When one you love is sick or dying - whether you are a family member, friend or professional caregiver - your gifts of love and selfless service are essential. Your presence can bring peace and comfort - even if no cure is possible - and in so doing, you act as the very hands of the Holy One (Matt. 25: 36-40). It is a sacred vocation.

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